It is always crazy to me that I can have a day where my heart is open and flowing and I feel loved and strong and powerful and then I go to sleep and wake up the next day a completely different person.
I hope these waves will stabilize a little bit once the growth I am searching for really sinks in, but I’m not sure that it will.
There are some schools of thought in the personal development world that say that finding appreciation before going to sleep will set your morning up to start with gratitude and warmth in the heart. They suggest you find 3-5 things to be appreciative of and write them down before sleep…. I haven’t found that to be the case for me. I still do the exercise but…. I find that sleeping tend to reset me to a default setting which is, the product of childhood wiring and is overwhelmingly negative. Sometimes I can have this amazing day the day before and then wake up to the exact opposite, a stinking pile of shit. Sometimes I wake up exactly where I left off, but more often than not it is an echo of the feelings from the day before, not as potent, but still present. Today was one of those shit sandwich days. There was absolutely no reason for it either.
It’s really frustrating actually.
So I got up, I went to my gym and worked out, chatted with some friends, came home and took a three hour nap because when I feel like this I sleep…..a lot. Then I woke up, groggy as hell, sat down to write and…. nothing. My energy feels zapped, my heart feels closed. W.T.F.
I think some of this comes back to Mr. X, him and I have this weird as hell connection. His heart was open a crack yesterday and fuck it felt good. Those days are like being surrounded in love. We didn’t even really talk much, there was no special conversation but I can FEEL it from him. Today, his heart is shut. It is really amazing how much it effects me. I think this is the emotionally empathic side of me that I have never experienced with anyone else and quite frankly I don’t know what to do with it! I know, it sounds like a cop out and a reason to not take responsibility for my feelings, and I promise that isn’t what is going on here. If you haven’t felt someone else’s heart beating in your own chest you can’t really comprehend what we have. But, I do take full responsibility for not shifting this better, because that is a choice, some days, though, the motivation to do so just isn’t there. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to make that shift and on days when I am afforded the luxury of a quiet, alone day, I reserve that energy.
I came up with a couple ways I could relieve this heaviness, but today is like a blanket so thick it weighs down the soul. At some point I just realized, it’s here. It’s frustrating and it’s telling me something. It’s causing me to look at my life and evaluate what’s working and what isn’t and those are all good things. So instead of fighting it, I am letting it be. I am doing the necessary internal overview and then I am going to go to bed early. I am still here, still showing up for myself, so there is pride in that. I am finding the things that bring my a little spark of joy and I am engaging with them, a mug of hot tea, a good romance novel, a snuggle from my dogs.
There are days where there is little inspiration, little motivation, little feeling really, and those days are okay. They are a solid contrast to the good days and provide a lot of drive to continue this path of improvement and self love. I can also see that these days come less and less and I have more happiness and joy in my life than ever before so there has been a tremendous amount of progress.
Here’s to tomorrow. May it be full of love, inspiration and appreciation for all of us. ❤ ❤